Reaching Out to An Escort: The Basics

So, you’ve decided to take the plunge, and you want to see an escort. Or, maybe you’ve seen a few people, but you’re not getting the responses you want when you reach out. Or, maybe you’re a seasoned veteran who wants to be the best client you possibly can be. Whatever has led you here, I applaud you! The first impression is the most important, and screening often starts from the first moment of contact.

Screening is not just the information you provide to an escort. Most escorts also consider your overall behavior when first reaching out to be part of the screening process.

READ THE AD

Before you even reach out to an escort, read her ad from top to bottom. It’s easy to get distracted by hot photos, but the text of the ad likely has important information such as:

• Her preferred method of contact
• Information she expects in a first message
• The length of time you may expect to wait before you hear back from her

Additionally, reading her ad helps you avoid annoying her by asking about things that you could have read…in the ad. Before reaching out, scan the ad for things like:

• Rates
• Session minimum times
• Days/times available
• Offerings
• Location and touring dates

Doing this will help you to avoid people with whom you are not compatible. All of this information may not be in the ad. That’s OK. But make sure you read the whole thing in case it is.

Reaching Out

After you’ve read the ad, the next step is to take the plunge. Reach out via her preferred contact method. Include any information she mentioned that she expects or requires.

A great first text message might be:

“Hello Delphine. My name is John. I’d love to see you at your space in Emeryville on 8/13 for 2 hours. Are you available that day? I’m happy to send any screening info you require.”

A great first e-mail might be:

“Hi Delphine,

My name is John. I’ll be in town on 8/13 and I’d love to spend 2 hours together. Are you available that day?

For screening, my phone number is xxx-xxx-xxxx. My LinkedIn is Linkedin.com/xxxxxxxx.

Let me know if that works for you. I’m happy to send any other info you’d like for screening. I’m really looking forward to meeting! I think we have a lot in common.

Best,

John”

Reaching Out Do’s and Dont’s

DON’T send a one word introductory message like “hey,” “hello,” or “hi.”

DO send an introductory message that includes your name and reason for contacting, just as you would when contacting any business.

DON’T send messages with incomplete sentences such as “avail” “hhr” “incall” “bbbj.”

DO send an introductory message that includes your name and reason for contacting, just as you would when contacting any business. (This is going to be repetitive.)

DON’T start the conversation by asking “how are you?” “how’s it going?” “how’s your night?”

DO send an introductory message that includes your name and reason for contacting, just as you would when contacting any business. (Yes, very repetitive.)

DON’T ask explicit questions or use explicit acronyms before screening. Even after screening, always ask if it is OK to ask explicit questions before doing so.

DO send an introductory message that includes your name and reason for contacting, just as you would when contacting any business. (Do y’all get it?)

That’s It!

Really, that’s it. The first contact with an escort is an important one. So make sure you make a great first impression to start the booking process off on the right foot.