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BDSM Talks: My Kink Background, Dixon Mason, Bondage, This One’s Getting Real and It’s Going to Be Long
I’ve debated for a couple months if I should put this out there. This is not an impulsive choice. I first thought of it in late March or early April, but made myself delay for a while because it seemed a bit out of pocket for me. But as my desires persisted, it has seemed less and less out there.…
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On Duolingo and Why I Might Be a Linguaphile
Now that Twitter is less avian, there’s a new bird app in town! If you follow me on social media, you have probably seen me posting about my Duolingo streak. By the time this posts, I will have a streak of over 1,000 days on the “bird app.” My friends got me a Duolingo hat and t-shirt for my birthday…
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Witchy Photo Dreaminess: Amanda Valentine
I think I first saw Amanda Valentine’s work on Instagram (RIP my old IG accounts…but I just started using it again!) through either Gina Barbara or Lucky Drive Photos. Her work had that certain “je ne sais quoi ” that made me want—no, actually, NEED—to shoot with her. I immediately booked a shoot at her Phoenix studio back in 2018.…
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Face In or Face Out? That Is the Question
You’ve probably seen the terms “face-in” or “face-out” floating around the world of escorting. What does it mean, and what does it mean for clients and providers? Why do some people stay face in, or elect to go face in after being face out, and vice versa? I started face-in, because it seemed like the wisest choice. However, after a…
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BDSM Talks: Why I Say No to “Whatever You Want, Mistress”
In all realms of sexuality, compatibility is extremely important. However, in the kink realm, there are often extra layers of compatibility that can make things even more complicated. It’s very common for people who are new to kink, or just exploring, or who aren’t actually into it but think it’s kind of exciting, to come to a session and say…
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Hygiene: How to Prepare to See an Escort
I am happy to report that most of my sweethearts are very eager to please, especially when it comes to the realm of cleanliness. The majority of people hop in the shower when I suggest it, use the mouthwash provided, and in general, care about their hygiene when they know they’re about to get down and dirty. Most of these…
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Making My Dreams Come True: Gina Barbara
The first time I saw Gina Barbara’s work on Twitter back in the day, I knew I wanted to shoot with her! Her polished pin-up looks are absolutely unmistakable. She always infuses her own photographic style while still showing the subject’s essence and what they actually look like. She also doesn’t shy away from creative or complicated ideas. Working with…
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What Is GFE Anyways?
GFE – The Girlfriend Experience. It’s the subject of much debate and a bit of mystery, even with the industry. Yet, is also quite well-known. Even people who don’t participate in sex work as a provider or a client may have heard the term. It is often used in the media – there was even a popular TV show about…
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It Doesn’t Have to Be Fancy: 5 Casual Oakland Spots for Great Dates
I already wrote about the intersection of hooking and luxury in a previous article about some fine-dining restaurants I’ve been wanting to try. Some people believe that escorts only want to be taken to luxuriously Michelin-starred fine dining experiences. And, it’s true. I do like that, a lot! But I also enjoy local favorites, dive bars, taco trucks, and other…
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To Raise Or Not Raise Rates (Or: A Glimpse Into How the Sausage is Made)
RATES. Let’s talk about them. I’ll be honest. As much as this blog is for the clients, sweethearts, and generous lovers of my world, there are some posts that I write with my fellow SWers in mind. And this is one of them. I’ve debated whether or not I should give this window into my inner thoughts of this particularly…
